Women...
The Embodiment
of divinity ;
The Personification of purity;
The Essence of moral values.
STRONG ..... by
mind
BEAUTIFUL..... by heart
INVINCIBLE.... by anything known..
Sakhis.. I'm talking about us...Do you hear me?
Thursday, December 12, 2013
Landmine life - Reposted
Landmine Life
If a
relationship cannot give that secure feeling that my next step would not be on
a landmine.. its a fake relationship. There is no honesty in it.. no truth..
Its like we are cheating ourselves in the name of that "relationship"
. The most successful relationships are those where each one works around the
limitations of the other. Not the ASSUMED limitations.. I'm talking about the
REAL limitations. This might look a little negative .. but this is a more
realistic approach. We strengthen ourselves by what each other know. But what
creates the first crack is an expectation surpassing the limitation of the
other. Expectations get built around one's ability.. in any relationship.
Limitation is the max efficiency one can perform that 'action' that he is able
to do. When I say I cook well, you cannot assume me to be your personal
"Nigella" . I cannot be your personal ' aishwarya rai' or ' sharukh'
or even your personal 'man / woman next door' , who always appears better than
me. In a husband-wife relationship, there is an acceptance of the limitations
of each other , appreciation & strengthening of the specialities of each other
, work within this premise - all happening in a warp of love. Do you feel this
is idealistic? It just implies that you are not really HAPPY. Just
introspect....
Working on strengths - Reposted
Before
I go on, I would request you to appreciate this, which is applicable to my past
& the future blogposts : I use very simple words .. very simple thoughts
. Because, I have always believed that everything in this world has its
"simple form" of expression . Thats what everyone understands. I've
learnt to reduce any problem into simpler components and then solve it - be it
a personal problem or a professional. So, english enthusiasts, please bear with
me..
The next step to understanding the limitations - "WORKING ON STRENGTHS. I believe that the most successful businesses are the ones where every resource is utilised to its best potential- note that i've used 'its' instead of 'the' and I hope you got the difference. Same with the most successful families. And thats probably why joint families worked wonders because there was a collective availability and deployment of resources.. A wonderful division of labour was possible.
Everyone has strengths & weaknesses. And its all about balancing these. Can we call it the ' fish ,cat & the bird principle of co-existence ' . In a family, first step is to understand the strength of each including the kids.. We know that fish swims , birds fly & cats run. In their own environment , viz, water, air & land - they achieve the best. Interchange their jobs - they will fail miserably.. And , interchange their environment ..fish on land, cats in air & birds in water... they die. Same way, in a relationship, if we understand that my wife / husband ( well, you can add all the members of the family here) excels in "this action" in this environment ' and use their strength for the common cause of overall family welfare, we would only keep moving ahead - financially as well as socially.. Ideally, the family will be a bunch of "experts" with a single goal. We would not be forcing our child to do engineering when he wants to become an archeologist, we will not make our wife a four wall show-piece when she aspires to be a fashion designer, we will not force our husband to become like the next door CEO when he wants to become a Life Coach.. And the worst is to realise 20 years later that we have wasted or lost an asset out of our own ego , arrogance or neglect . Your kid or wife or husband whom you didnt understand would have pardoned you.. But your conscience would never.. Because, it never sleeps.. Laks
The next step to understanding the limitations - "WORKING ON STRENGTHS. I believe that the most successful businesses are the ones where every resource is utilised to its best potential- note that i've used 'its' instead of 'the' and I hope you got the difference. Same with the most successful families. And thats probably why joint families worked wonders because there was a collective availability and deployment of resources.. A wonderful division of labour was possible.
Everyone has strengths & weaknesses. And its all about balancing these. Can we call it the ' fish ,cat & the bird principle of co-existence ' . In a family, first step is to understand the strength of each including the kids.. We know that fish swims , birds fly & cats run. In their own environment , viz, water, air & land - they achieve the best. Interchange their jobs - they will fail miserably.. And , interchange their environment ..fish on land, cats in air & birds in water... they die. Same way, in a relationship, if we understand that my wife / husband ( well, you can add all the members of the family here) excels in "this action" in this environment ' and use their strength for the common cause of overall family welfare, we would only keep moving ahead - financially as well as socially.. Ideally, the family will be a bunch of "experts" with a single goal. We would not be forcing our child to do engineering when he wants to become an archeologist, we will not make our wife a four wall show-piece when she aspires to be a fashion designer, we will not force our husband to become like the next door CEO when he wants to become a Life Coach.. And the worst is to realise 20 years later that we have wasted or lost an asset out of our own ego , arrogance or neglect . Your kid or wife or husband whom you didnt understand would have pardoned you.. But your conscience would never.. Because, it never sleeps.. Laks
Man & Woman or Man Vs Woman - reposted
just now
replied to a blog post where a year long discussion was going on "why
conflicts between man & woman " and the recent one by someone claiming
that "women are confused as to what they want". I've reproduced my
thoughts which I sent to that particular group... Pl. blogpost your opinions
too .. Laks
Man Vs Women or
Man & Women
How does this sound to you ?
1.
' Man Vs Woman' 2. 'Man & Woman' . The simplest solution to all you have
discussed is here- whether your lead your life as "man vs woman" or
"man & woman" . Man vs woman- its always a competition as to who
is bigger - in terms of anything - money, love, ego, respect .This is a
parasitic life - an unhealthy competition - the root cause of all problems .
But Man & Woman always means a peaceful co-existence. Each one trying to
lift the other higher in all aspects.. Its a symbiotic relationship. There are
three realities here:
1. Both at "man & woman" level of relationship - Life is beautiiful & they live happily ever after
2. One lives M&W and the other M vs W - Go on upto your tolerance levels - If one is unable t0 change the other, then QUIT.
3. Both M vs W - The best is to understand this initially and just Quit the relationship - its just not going to work out. And even if you dont quit initially - any time is the best time to QUIT in such relationships.
Life poses difficult situations - but its actually simple. Because, your objective in life is not to crib about difficulties but do the best in a given situation to make your "self" happy.
Even spiritually looking at things - Man & Women are equal "power stations" - the best that can happen is a synergy when they live as "Man & woman". But, with "Man Vs Woman" - I dont have to tell you - Its called "annihilation".
1. Both at "man & woman" level of relationship - Life is beautiiful & they live happily ever after
2. One lives M&W and the other M vs W - Go on upto your tolerance levels - If one is unable t0 change the other, then QUIT.
3. Both M vs W - The best is to understand this initially and just Quit the relationship - its just not going to work out. And even if you dont quit initially - any time is the best time to QUIT in such relationships.
Life poses difficult situations - but its actually simple. Because, your objective in life is not to crib about difficulties but do the best in a given situation to make your "self" happy.
Even spiritually looking at things - Man & Women are equal "power stations" - the best that can happen is a synergy when they live as "Man & woman". But, with "Man Vs Woman" - I dont have to tell you - Its called "annihilation".
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